Oral Sex for Men
Fellatio - History of Fellatio - Basic Penis Education - Angle of the dangle - Thrusting - Bad Smell & Taste - Deep Throating - Sensitive Spots - Hand stimulation - 69 - Taste Better - Contents of Semen
Fellatio, giving head, giving a blow-job. Many men love this
kind of stimulation, and many people, both women and men, like giving it.
Fellatio is the act of applying your lips to a man's penis with the purpose of
giving him pleasure.
There are few tips to fellatio that can
be given other than practice. The lips and the tongue are the major sources of
stimulation, and it is with the lips and tongue that you should apply the
attention to make him feel good. Both men and women respond well to pressure and
rhythm. A steady, strong stroke will be enough to get the reaction you're
looking for.
HISTORY
OF FELLATIO (fel-lay'-she-o)
The delights of fellatio were probably savored even in the dawn of civilization.
Maybe the early Middle Easterners learned it in the most natural manner: by
observing nature, that is, by watching domesticated and wild animals licking
each other's genitals - Thus, from natural observation, investigation, and
experimentation, emerge the arts of love. As the Old Testament so often reminds
us, the Jews were surrounded by incorrigible sodomites, the Babylonians,
Philistines, Chaldeas, Egyptians, etc., who, we can be sure, didn't ignore
penis-sucking when it came time to having a good time. There are very old
Egyptian pictures that seem to suggest fellatory activity.
In ancient Greece, fellatio was known as "playing the flute." Its
praises were sung by Greek and Roman Poets, and so it must have been fairly
widespread. Priapus comments, "Through the middle of boys and girls travels
the member; when it meets beaded chins then it aspires to the heights." The
Roman poet Martial counsels an aging friend, "Why do you plague in vain
unhappy vulvas and posteriors; gain but the heights, for there any old member
revives." And the poet Lucian mentions the fellatory rape of the Syrian
Timarchus....
In India the art of fellatio has a long history, going back perhaps to the birth
of Christ. One of the first love manuals, the Kama Sutra (ca. 100-300 A.D.) has
a whole chapter on Oparishtaka, "mouth congress" saying that:
"The male servants of some men carry on the mouth congress with their
masters. It is also practiced by some citizens, who know each other well, among
themselves."
In India it is also known as mukhamethuna ("oral churning") and
ambarchusi ("mango-fruit sucking").
Fellatio has been highly praised from North Africa eastward, being "common
and customary among all classes and races," often deemed even more intimate
and enrapturing than genital union, perhaps because oral excitation yields the
most acute and intense pleasure. The sensations produced by the caressing mouth
of one's beloved seem more ardent and enravishing than those produced by the
penis or vagina.
In Turkey, it's felt that fellatio allows greater variety and subtler nuances of
pleasure than vaginal or anal activity, which are more or less restricted in
their execution and effect. In a word, as the Turks say, "Penis sucking is
better than fucking!"
Throughout the Arab world, the slang word for fellatio is "qerdz". In
Tunisia, Egypt, Arabia, Persia, Afghanistan, and farther, to Malaya, from which
there is this sex-party account: "The scene is the same all over the room.
While the man lies at full length on a couch or sits reclined in a chair, the
boy --kneeling or stooping-- holds and kisses his penis, sucks it, and receives
the emission of semen in his mouth, right up to the very last drop."
In all, there are many places in the world where the finer joys were and are
savored and cultivated. The "Arabian voluptuary," as Victorian England
knew him, or the "damnable Toork" of an earlier era, could appreciate
a darting tongue, wet, firm lips, and sucked-in cheeks clinging to a quivering
stalk.
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Basic Penis
Education
LOOK at your partners penis, examine it and see how wonderfully created it is
for your sexual pleasure.
The shaft, the head (technically the glans penis, with glans coming from the
Latin which means "acorn"). Look at it closely. The outside of the
glans penis is the corona. This joins the head to the shaft. This is the most
sensitive part on the penis and where most of your attention should be in giving
oral sex.
On the underside of the glans there is a point of juncture where the two ends of
this irregular circle come together. If the male is not circumcised, this will
be where the foreskin is attached. This tiny area is the most sexually sensitive
spot on his entire body, and is similar to the woman's clitoris. It may be
possible to bring your partner to a climax simply by gently tapping the tip of
your tongue directly on it.
Beneath the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have many nerve
endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any high degree of
stimulation when caressed either manually or with your tongue to the exclusion
of the glans penis itself. It always amazes me to note the number of women who
believe that sucking up and down on the shaft will get the guy off. That's not
it, folks! If it works it is because the back of your throat is playing tricks
on his glans penis. Your throat is giving head to his head!
Beneath the shaft are the testicles. The testicles ("balls" in slang)
are extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually considered subject to erotic
stimulation to any particular degree. Not true! You can add a high degree of
pleasure for him by paying the right kind of attention to the testicles. The
opening in the tip of the glans penis is the meatus. Here is where the cum
spurts.
The sad fact is that most people, men and women, do not have the slightest idea
of how to suck a penis. Most seem to think that simply by making a cunt of their
mouth, closing it around a man's penis, and bobbing their heads lustily up and
down until he climaxes automatically makes them an expert. Au contraire!
Consummate skill is required to suck a man and provide him with the highest
degree of pleasure possible. When a woman first starts her quest she usually has
no one to turn to for advise and counsel. It was all hunt and suck. Hunt and
suck. Find that one technique that could and would set him on fire! Also some
men are more stimulated by oral sex than others. For most men it is very
stimulating but for others its not.
In order for you to observe your man's reactions and get the most information
possible about his responses, try the following:
While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one hand and
gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully along the entire
underside of his erect organ. As you suck along the underbelly you will learn
those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching
them. Unless he is made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues
as to which areas are most pleasurable.
As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure, concentrate on them. For most
men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring (or corona) of the
head and the foreskin are attached. Or were attached prior to his circumcision.
By continued licking and tapping along this area with your tongue you may bring
forth a geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I
suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first
hand with the nature and delight of his climax.
As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his penis. These
signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that you can prepare for his
cum properly. The head of the penis may swell somewhat larger then it is during
the normal course of his erection. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to
send his body hurtling out his penis with his cum. And for most men, immediately
prior to the cum, there will appear at the tiny, lovely lips at the tip of the
penis a clear drop or two of fluid. When you see this or feel the opening at the
meateus through his condom you know that the moment of truth is at hand. Launch
the torpedoes, full cum ahead!
Where should you be when you are sucking his penis? Between his legs, on top of
him, in a sixty nine position? Where? Because of the structure of his penis, as
well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue, and teeth, you can provide
the highest degree of sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between
his legs and approaching his penis from the bottom rather than from the side or
the top.
Place his stiff penis inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the
shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The penis will slide to different
places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this
one. A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner
is on his back and your head is directly over his penis. The circle should be
executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow, purposeful
manner.
With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in front of
him lift his hard penis to reveal his balls. With your tongue find the underside
of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue, lick in an upward
motion to the very tip of his penis. It is permissible to use your hands in this
technique. It is better to do this technique several times in succession-like
licking a lollipop or ice cream cone.
Right now lets discuss a technique that is probably the most common penis
sucking technique in the world. Take his penis in your mouth but not deeply. We
will get to deep throating later on. It's great, not over-rated, but if you want
to be an expert at deep throat, start with the right techniques and work your
way down, so to speak.
Take his penis in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue lovingly over the
head until your lips close around the shaft at the point just behind the corona.
Don't just open your mouth and close it around his penis. Slide it in. He will
enjoy it much more. Encase the shaft of his penis with your hand. Remember the
shaft is relatively insensitive to any kind of stimulation. By enclosing his
penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis encased.
Now you have several options. Try twisting your head from side to side making
sure your moist lips stay in contact with the coronal ridge. While doing this
gently move your hand up and down the shaft. When he climaxes he may want to
push your head further down the shaft of his penis. He wants to envelop you with
his penis. As you are learning his climax, you will miss the fine points if you
deep throat at this time. Instead gently suck around the corona as he climaxes
so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the force of his orgasm. As
you gain more experience you will be able to tell exactly when his climax is
approaching.
There is one further refinement to this basic technique, which will heighten his
orgasm. If you place your thumb at the very base of the penis in such a way as
to block the tube through which the cum spurts, the semen cannot escape even
though he is spasming and going through the reflex action of ejaculating semen.
If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his penis you can delay
his cum for several long moments. When you finally allow the cum to spurt it
will last much longer and be just as intense as a result. Even though you delay
the cum for only a few short moments, you will be surprised by the intensity of
his cum.
These techniques are the basis of penissucking. Do not go beyond them until you
have become an expert, not only in the techniques themselves, but also in the
reading and interpreting of your partner's responses to such a point that you
know exactly how he is getting off on what you are doing. When you have reached
this point, you are ready for the more subtle, more advanced techniques.
Don't be so slavish that you miss out on the fun of self discovery. Find out
what works for you and for your partner and make your penissucking as individual
as your signature. After all, you want your man to pick you out in the dark
among a hundred slobbering penissuckers.
One of the first things you encountered when you first started to suck penis was
a gag reflex. Most men seem to want to force their penis down your throat as far
as they can get it. Particularly at the moment when they cum!
Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is three to
three and a half inches while the average Caucasian penis length is five to five
and a half inches. The laws of nature would seem to dictate that getting all
that penis into your mouth is an impossibility.
It can be done. If you understand your anatomy you will begin to understand the
requirements that allow you to take his hard penis into your mouth and down your
throat. The biggest obstacle to taking all of his penis down your throat is the
fact that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading
down into your throat. So the first thing to do is get the penis past that
angle.
Get past the angle of
the dangle!
In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your head in
such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best
position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the
edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply
back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will
allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of his penis can
be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against your lips.
The natural tendency of the body is to gag when a foreign object such as a
deeply thrusting penis is being forced down your throat. You can overcome this
tendency by completely relaxing your throat at the moment the insertion is made.
It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire deep
throating.
Let him put his penis down your throat and hold it still while you find the most
comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position you will not be able to
move or to offer him any greater stimulation than simply keeping your mouth
tightly closed around his throbbing penis. If you are able try, to stimulate his
underbelly with your tongue.
You will only be able to relax and take his penis in this way if you completely
trust your partner. Your partner is in full control. He must initiate and
maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise in which you relinquish your
control of the situation to your partner. He will relish this for the simple
fact that for the first time he can insert his penis as deeply down your throat
as he wants to. Now your partner begins an in and out movement that is just like
fucking. He should start slowly, especially if this is a completely new
experience for the two of you. After all, if he hurts you he cuts himself off
from one of the great pleasures in life. His only other requirement during this
exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction throughout this oral
exercise, as there is simply no leeway for him to vary the motion from side to
side.
One other word of caution. Don't let your partner get carried away at the moment
he starts to cum. At that spectacular moment he will be able for the first time
to thrust his penis all the way inside your oral cavity and that is the most
important lesson of this exercise! His only other requirement during the
exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction against your lips as he
cums. Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the problem of
swallowing his cum. The reason is because he has gotten his penis BEYOND your
gag reflex! Without a condemn his cum will shoot directly into your stomach! If
both you and your partner understand what it is that you are trying to do, as
well as the possible problems that may "cum" up along the way, no harm
or discomfort will happen to either of you.
It is possible that not everyone will learn the "deep throat"
technique, but this inability does not make you any less a penissucker. You must
allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting his penis
this deeply down your throat. To do this long enough for your partner to
completely get it off is very difficult and may require lots of practice. It may
be that you will be able to take your partner completely down your throat, but
you will not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat until he
shoots his load. Hopefully your partner will understand that this is not a
rejection of him or of what he is offering you, and it is my sincere desire that
you not stop here and think that you will never master the "deep
throat" technique.
Cum is a curious thing. It's taste varies from person to person, mild to tangy.
It's good stuff nutritionally, being mostly protein and minerals; it's the
minerals that give the unique flavor. Take it or leave it, there's nothing wrong
with it, and it can turn out to be quite a nice treat.
If you want to swallow it without hassle, take the climax deep in your mouth,
and remember, "in each and every case, the faster it is swallowed, the less
time the taste remains." Vomiting, noisy hawkings, or dashing to the
bathroom can be very rude and demeaning to someone who's just climaxed, so if
you don't want to swallow it, remove it quietly afterwards, into a handy towel
or handkerchief. Or if you like, things can always be switched from fellatio to
masturbation or something else beforehand, but don't do this too close to
orgasm.
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THRUSTING
So far I've been talking about fellatio where one person lays back and gets
sucked off. There's another kind too, where one person slides his penis in and
out of his friend's mouth. The Romans really liked this kind of fellatio, and
called it "irrumatio". It gives a different experience to the person
being fellated, because he's the one moving. He's more tense and active, he's
controlling his experience much more so than in the other style, and he's moving
his penis in an action called thrusting, which in itself can be a different and
enjoyable sensation.
If you and your partner want to try this, have him lie down on his back with a
pillow under his head. Then you straddle him with your hands and knees so that
your crotch is over his face, and your head is above his. Move around until you
can easily fit your penis into his mouth. He should make his mouth wet and form
a snug ring with his lips around your shaft, as he'd do for the sliding action
described earlier. He should suck on your penis, and otherwise keep still.
Now you want to slide you penis in and out. This thrusting is learned, and the
only way to learn is by doing. Without moving your knees or using your hands,
move your penis with your hips. Ask him to be patient and just experiment. Ask
yourself, how in the world can I get myself to move in and out, and try out your
muscles? Imagine a point at the base of your penis, and you want to cause this
point to push out and up through your penis, and them pull back again. Everyone
free of paralysis can do thrusting, if they want to. Just take your time and
explore. Follow your sensations - see what feels good and do it again. Having an
experienced guide or helper can be very useful too.
That's basically all there is to it. You can add things like rocking your pelvis
from side to side or circularly (called "grinding"). Or your partner
can rock his head from side to side, or move it up and back to meet your
strokes, or use his tongue if he likes. Also, there are lots of different
positions, standing, kneeling, and so on. Many couples like to work out there
own ways. I'm saying, here are possibilities; there you are- explore, take what
you want, and enjoy!
Some people can get into this second kind of fellatio, others don't like it. A
frequent complaint is that the mouth-partner felt abused, that he had no control
and the other thrust too deeply or violently, causing gagging, fear, or other
troubles. This needn't happen if the two people can talk freely, and respect
their own and each other's wants and needs. You might be able to work something
out with the following suggestions:
Awareness: if you're thrusting, you can be aware of your friend's comfort level,
and with a little care, regulate the depth and strength of your thrusts.
Pausing: try pausing for a moment between thrusts.
The Stopper Technique: if your friend is thrusting in your mouth, you can have
some control by wrapping one hand around his lower shaft, to use as a stopper,
allowing only as much as you like. If your hand is at the base, this also adds a
pleasurable pressure against this body. You (or your partner) can use the hand
to masturbate the lower part of his penis as the top part slides in and out,
moving the hand down to the base as the penis slides in.
Mutuality: in irrumatio, the mouth-partner is likely to get bored, and this
contributes a lot to feeling abused. There are some positions that allow mutual
fondling, where he can caress you, and in others the mouth partner can
masturbate himself.
If the smell isn't something you enjoy, then tell him to go take a shower! While this is something you're doing primarily for his pleasure, that doesn't mean you have to suffer if he's lacking in hygiene! And if you're worried about germs, your mouth has millions more germs than a clean penis.
The "dick smell" of an uncut, or uncircumcised, penis is produced by sweat or Smegma. Smegma is a cheesy secretion from under the foreskin that acts as a natural lube. It might have anti-bacterial and anti-viral properties, too. Some people do not like the distinctive smell Smegma produces, whereas others find it agreeable and even arousing. Besides personal preferences, one's like or dislike of smells, scents, and aromas can also be culturally related.
Regardless of your penis's particular perfume, pulling back the foreskin and washing away excess Smegma is important for hygiene. If Smegma gathers without being washed away, it can turn to glue, preventing the foreskin from easily moving back and forth along the head of the penis. Uncircumcised penises are also cleaned out every time a man pees. If odor from leftover urine is a concern, wiping the head of the penis after urinating can help reduce it.
However, if what you're sniffing is more of an unpleasant rather than natural dick smell, then it's possible that there is an infection, such as yeast. But a yeast infection (similar to what women get) would be accompanied with redness and abnormal pus. To prevent infection, uncircumcised men need to retract their foreskin and wash with soap and water every day. If the foreskin cannot be pulled back, see a health care provider or urologist.
Deep throating is the act of taking the penis down past your gag reflex. In reality, this particular sexual adventure is very overrated. The best way to give fellatio is still with the lips and tongue, taking only as much as you can without gagging. However, for those that want to know, the basic lesson is still practice. Take the penis as far as you can without choking, and then close your eyes and concentrate, taking each quarter inch, telling yourself that you won't choke, that you can take it out at any time, and slowly swallow it down. Then rise off of it just as slowly.
Every penis is different, and each has its sensitive spots and its preferred ways of being handled. Listen to your lover. The sounds he makes and the feel of his body tensing are your best clues that you're going this right.
Feel free to grasp with your hands whatever of the penis you can't fit into your mouth. Many men like as much stimulation as possible, and the feel of a wet mouth and a saliva-slicked hand are enough to send them to the brink of orgasm very quickly.
Some people feel that the best position to perform oral sex is the 69 position, where each partner lies with their head by the other's genitals. For fellatio, this even makes sense-- most penises curve upwards, towards the head, and in this position that curve matches the curve of the throat. However, it is difficult to both perform and appreciate oral sex at the same time. Try the position, or kneel by his body, but at least in the beginning do one thing at a time.
Which brings us to a sensitive issue: swallowing ejaculate. For many men, this is important to them-- they like to feel that by swallowing their semen, you complete this act of lovemaking and accept a part of themselves into your body. But many people don't like the taste of semen and can't bring themselves. Talk about this beforehand-- let him know if you can't handle it, and that it's not personal.
Macrobiotic nutritionists have actually done research on this
question, and the answer is in: you are what you eat. Common sense dictates that
if you taste good, your lover will want to eat you more often, so improving your
body's taste and smell should be important to you.
In general, nutritionists say that
alkaline-based foods such as meats and fish produce a butter, fish taste. Dairy
products, which contain a high bacterial putrefaction level create the foulest
tasting fluids by far. (Dissent: almost everyone I know says that there is one
worse than a high-dairy content-- asparagus. You can't miss the taste of
asparagus-laced semen.) Acidic fruits, such as sweets, fruits, and alcohol give
bodily fluids a pleasant, sugary flavor. Chemically processed liquors will cause
an extremely acidic taste, however, so if you're going to drink alcohol, drink
high-quality, naturally fermented beers (Rolling Rock or Kirin) or sake.
The question of semen content arises especially among persons
who regularly swallow semen, as in fellatio, and who are concerned about calorie
intake and nutritional substances. The average ejaculate contains aboutonia,
ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline,
citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione,
hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus,
potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine,
spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin b12, and zinc.
The caloric content of an average ejaculate is estimated to be approximately 15
calories.
There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with enthusiasm. You have
to love what you're doing to him, either because you love him or you love
sucking cock. Loving both is best! Faked orgasms have nothing on lackluster
fellatio.
The caloric content of an average
ejaculate is estimated to be approximately 15 calories.
There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either because you love him or you love sucking cock. Loving both is best! Faked orgasms have nothing on lackluster fellatio
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